“Happiness is when what you think, what you say and what you do are in harmony”- Mahatma
Happiness is a mental state of well being defined by positive and pleasant emotions. Various Research groups including positive psychology are implying scientific methods to understand the relevance of happiness in one’s life and how it might be attained.
There are many perspective’s that come to light when we think about happiness, for some of us its the quality of life we lead, well-being, monetary benefits etc. There are times when one single factor is the reason of an individuals happiness or a combinations of many factors. It is extremely important to understand and realize what happiness can do to a person social/personal life. If there is internal happiness it inherently makes you happy from the outside as well.
Psychologist Martin Seligman asserts that happiness is not solely derived from external, momentary pleasures,and provides the acronym PERMA to summarize Positive Psychology’s correlational findings: humans seem happiest when they have
- Pleasure (tasty food, warm baths, etc.),
- Engagement , (the absorption of an enjoyed yet challenging activity),
- Relationships (social ties have turned out to be extremely reliable indicator of happiness),
- Meaning(a perceived quest or belonging to something bigger), and
- Accomplishments (having realized tangible goals)
Personally being happy and seeing the positive side of things has tremendously helped me in making important decisions in my life. When we are young and naive happiness used to be a part of our lives, we never had to “find happiness”. Over the period of time we tend to forget the mere existence of ourselves, we get so engaged with achieving our goals and dreams that being happy internally does not exist naturally, we use external factors/forces to influence happiness in our lives.
Very few of us live in isolation. We interact with friends, family, colleagues on a daily basis. We often don’t realize but we tend to impact the others around us. Hence, if we are happy people around us are happy. All of us want to be happy and yet sometimes we feel grumpy, depressed, dissatisfied and hopeless.
A paradigm shift is something radical change on how views reality. With the paradigm shift old assumptions are not applicable, new fresh way of being takes place. According to Dr. Gail Benner if you want to be happy we need to prepare for an inner revolution. Following are some of the shifts that Dr. Benner as mentioned which I feel will help us to change our lives in a better way.
From being unconscious to being conscious:-
Much of our behavior happens automatically, outside of conscious awareness. We inhabit familiar patterns that are based on assumptions we have about the world, patterns that continue until we become aware of our behavior and question the truth of these underlying assumptions. There is nothing inherently wrong with not being aware. But if what we want is greater happiness in our lives, conscious awareness is the key, the first essential step toward freedom from automatic behavior patterns. We need to look at what is actually happening in our experience when we are triggered so we know what we are dealing with – the thoughts, mental stories, sensations in our bodies, emotions, and the reactions of those around us.
From looking outward to looking inward :-
For most of us, the usual way to solve problems is to try to fix something about the situation or other people. The only way to deflate the areas if unhappiness in our lives is the last one we think of – looking inward to examine our own reflections.
From living in the past/ future to being present :-
The truth is that its hard to not be in the present. Thinking about our past and future we are not actually in the past/future we are just experiencing it in the present. We worry, analyze, doubt ourselves, criticize, and obsessively plan. The experience of being present is always available to us and the thoughts and feelings are more reliable and it helps our minds to not wander into negative thoughts.
From criticism and judgement to appreciation and gratitude:-
Its always pleasant feeling when we appreciate others than criticizing them. we create a sense of negativity in our minds and around us when we condemn others by judging them. As Wayne Dyer rightly said “When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself.”
In my pervious blog I have shared with you’ll my experience and the importance of meditation in my life. Meditation has also been of great help in finding inner peace and happiness. Make a commitment to be conscious in your life. Look inward to become aware of the patterns you play out that disturb your well-being. Live in the present; be awake to life as it is actually unfolding. Let go of the critical mind, and allow your heart to sing. Happiness is right here, right now, in this very moment.
I hope you guys find this useful 🙂